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Man tells Boomer’s mother-in-law he’ll throw her heirlooms in the trash

In the past, young people couldn’t wait to finally get their hands on the beautiful and meaningful objects that were passed down from generation to generation in their families. But a recent Reddit post about heirlooms and the discourse that resulted shows that times have definitely changed.

A man told his Boomer mother-in-law that he plans to throw her heirlooms in the trash.

Things have certainly changed from generation to generation when it comes to inheriting family heirlooms – add tradition to the list of things millennials have supposedly ‘killed’, like department stores and diners.

The shift has been so drastic that consignment and charity shops say they are now inundated with things like china sets and furniture that millennials, and now Generation Z, simply don’t want to inherit.

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A man who recently posted on Reddit is a perfect example. He and his wife have absolutely had it with his mother-in-law “thinking we’re going to keep all her belongings like a museum,” and it’s caused quite a bit of drama in their family.

His mother-in-law is furious that no one wants her china, even though she never uses it.

In some ways, this story addresses some of the most common criticisms of baby boomers – namely the narcissism they are so often accused of and their seemingly insatiable consumerism.

“(Our) four adult children were all home for Easter,” the father wrote. “(My) mother-in-law said each of them had to choose one of four different sets of china they wanted to inherit. EVERYONE said no.”

The mother-in-law was immediately offended that no one “wanted her memories,” even though it was pointed out that “they haven’t been out of the closet for at least thirty years,” and that they ate from everyday plates for a while. Easter when this altercation arose.

The argument escalated to the mother-in-law threatening to disinherit them all completely for not respecting tradition or her belongings and not being committed enough to the family, which brought matters to a head.

“My wife lost it and (said) she is going to use (the china) as Frisbees once she dies,” the man wrote. “Another great memory tied to the family porcelain.”

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His story sparked a debate about everything from generational conflict to the economic realities of millennials and Generation Z.

The man’s post has gone wildly viral on X, aka Twitter, where it has sparked quite a bit of discussion. Many felt it showed that the younger generations’ candor about our righteous frustrations and anger toward our boomer parents may have taken a dark turn — that it has now become what one Twitter user called “our millennial habit of performing performatively.” wise to be hurtful to loved ones’.

It’s hard not to notice that dynamic here. An elderly woman who, at the end of her life, tries to give her loved ones her prized possessions and receives vitriol in return. That frisbee line is hilarious, but also pretty mean. (On the other hand, the mother-in-law’s threats do her no favors.)

Others felt that this mother-in-law’s family was essentially shooting themselves in the foot, because, in a world where even a rickety chipboard IKEA desk now costs $400, that means all the mother-in-law has to give them is likely a lot more beautiful and sturdier than anything these people have or can buy.

But this conflict is also a perfect example of a long-standing cultural lake among older generations that simply doesn’t compare to millennials, Gen Zers, and even many Gen Xers because of the dark economic realities they face.

As one Redditor put it about things like this Boomer china: “You shouldn’t use it. You should worry about it.” And that doesn’t make sense to generations of people for whom stagnant wages and astronomical housing costs mean they can’t even afford to live somewhere with enough space and sustainability to house all these heirlooms.

Who wants a whole set of dishes to worry about or a beautiful old mahogany dining table when you move every year or two to chase a lower rent or your house is so small that you have to rent a storage unit for all this stuff? who came like this? easily to our parents and grandparents. No wonder it ends up in consignment stores.

It’s a sad no-win situation for everyone involved, and that probably means one thing: we all have to let go and move on. Boomers need to let go of the need to see their belongings passed on, and we younger folks need to work on being a little more empathetic about how sad it must be for our elders to see their prized possessions end up at Goodwill.

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John Sundholm is a news and entertainment writer who covers pop culture, social justice and human interest topics.